Relationships

Relationships build over time, right? That's the gist we seem to get our entire lives , that with time relationships can be beautiful. Or at least, that's the message we should be pushing.

But no, instead, (curse my soul for I love Disney), we are raised with Disney movies thinking all you need is that first initial spark to cement a life long relationship.

Um, no?

Maybe it works for a few select people, but for most normal people need something more than a spark. They need common interests, they need love, they need understanding, they need someone to know them. Even personally, the past relationship I miss the most was one that began with friendship.

This rant sprouted from a friend of mine starting a relationship only about five days after beginning talking to a girl. You barely know her? You have not gone through some life-changing event together to attach you at the hip?You're just acting like infatuated thirteen year olds?

I despise ridiculous relationships. Even friend relationships. Someone is not your best friend after a few days of knowing them. That is not how it works. Best friendship and romantic entanglement take time and energy and getting to know one another before making it serious.

But no one seems to get that.

Guess I'm all alone here in no-man's-land, dreaming of a rational, grounded relationship instead of a crazy, up in the air one.

Crazy up in the air ones can be fun but, eventually, its those grounded ones that will matter. That's what I've learned at least from my life experience. Crazy ones are hard to handle, hard to keep together, hard to make real and solid. Growing affection seems to be something much stronger.

I hope I will find my own grounded, growing relationship one day.

But for the moment, screw crazy ones and just be happy being single pringle me.